We’re wired so that once we start to develop an emotional attachment this is hard to break away from. Why: Different vacation preferences or amounts of vacation time can be a major source of ongoing incompatibility. Why: This question helps establish if your date has a positive or negative attitude? Why: Helps you find out the person's preferences and also helps you establish if the person has any free time or if they're a workaholic.
Find out early if there are reasons that “making it work” will be fraught. Select a few of these questions rather than attempt to ask them all on the same first date! For example, if one person likes to take very long trips and the other person has a more standard two weeks vacation time. If asking this question leads to five solid minutes of them complaining you'll know the person sees the glass as half empty. Why: When you enter a relationship with someone you’re also entering a relationship with their friends. Why: If one of you doesn't like pets and the other has 3 dogs, that's likely to be a problem.
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His perfect day would definitely have included much, much beer. Bob Dylan and Maya Angelou would have been my dinner guests, I would definitely only want to be famous for creating/inventing something profoundly important and my perfect day would have involved walks on the cliffs and wine.
I would have analysed how open he was prepared to be with the deeper questions, was that a good or a bad sign?
In the world of online dating, getting noticed can sometimes feel like a challenge.
However, to ensure dating success, standing out is essential. To get the best results, you’ve got to get specific.
The questions are well-known in psychology circles as the subject of an experiment carried out in 1997. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time?
If the myriad of profile questions asked overwhelm you, stop, take a deep breath, and focus on answering each question in a way that best represents who you really are.
What follows are some generic profile questions, along with suggested unique answers and explanations as to how they’ll help get you noticed.
Childhood memories are funny things: They reveal a lot about the way you think about the world, and the way you looked at it from a young age. As long as you’ve got a couple years to cushion you from it, it can be a time that’s rich with funny stories and little observations. What’s something you’ve been really proud of lately? Eating that super-hot chili on the “Dare You” menu at the local diner? If you’re going out together, it’s fair to assume that you and your date are both in the dating game. For me, it would be my photo albums and my childhood stuffed animal, but their question will tell you what they could not bear to lose. The goal of dates is to have a good time and figure out if you want to see more of this person.
It’s a great way to learn a little bit more about their background and spark a discussion about the way you both grew up. You want to know where someone came from, but it can be a delicate subject. The way that someone saw themselves in high school when they were can say a lot about who they are. Maybe it’s hitting a time goal on a run or learning how to make pesto or finally getting the hang of something at work. If reading is something you’re into, this is a good way of seeing what tastes you share and what interests your date. It’s a good way to take a peek into their ambitions and dreams. It’s a weird one, and it helps to commiserate over it. Hopefully some of these questions will help you on your way.